Appreciating Time

Hmm… we have become so familiar with our wrist watch such that all it means to us is just a fashion item (accessory) - what about its primary assignment?

I was at a meeting where I asked a member of the audience what his definition of time is. His response further establishes that there are some words that we are so close to and yet, we find them challenging to explain or define.

With a smile on his face, he said, “time is time.” One of my teachers back in those days would say, we should try as much as possible to do away with the word we are defining from the explanation or definition we are giving. According to this teacher, your ability to do this helps you to truly know if you understand the word you’ve been asked to define or explain.

A lot of us have become so “familiar” with time that we think and relate to time as just time. We see time as a "normal thing"- it is just one of those things. It is true that we have 24hours each day but the truth of the matter is, we can never experience the same thing we did yesterday today. Yesterday is gone, today is is another day and tomorrow is yet to come but, what we did yesterday and what we do today tells what today looks like and what tomorrow will look like respectively.

That a man wears a wrist watch is not an indication that he values time or knows what time it is.

This piece is meant to challenge you to see time as a scarce resource and to provoke you to make the best use of every moment and make it count for good. The time you have today will never be there again. Today is an opportunity to determine what your  tomorrow's experience will look like.

It is my believe that this article will not only motivate every reader but will also provoke and propel you to getting the best out of every moment and stage of your life. God Bless you. 

Thanks for reading. and please drop some comment, your view is important            

         

Friends of Benefit (You)-part 3

This category or part three of a series titled “friends of benefit” focuses on the role an individual has to play i.e. you are supposed to be a friend to yourself. How will you love your friend when you don’t even Love yourself? Whatever you do to others is a reflection of what and who you are to yourself.

At times I feel like throwing in the towel due to challenges, discouragement, unyielding efforts etc. but in as much as I feel like, I refuse to. Instead I give myself some pep talks and see myself spurring on and daring to achieve more. If I fail to motivate myself, it means I don’t love myself and nothing will motivate me.

The truth is, there are no supermen but men with super attitude. Every successful person you see or read about today did not become successful/notable because they did not face any challenge but because they had a healthy attitude towards those trying and challenging periods knowing that - Life is filled with ups and downs.

It begins with you!

Personal motivation is very important for anyone who wants to go far because, motivation from external sources may go on strike at times and you’ll be left On Your Own (OYO). 

The place of personal motivation is very crucial. You have to be self- motivated before you can be motivated i.e. you can’t be motivated by any other person if you are not self-motivated. Whenever, I am down and feel like quitting, I psyche myself up.

“it is what the bird feeds on that helps it to fly”.

What you “feed” on matters a lot. The importance of what you surround yourself with can never be over accentuated- they determine your attitude and reaction towards challenges. What you surround yourself with tells if you are a friend of benefit to yourself or not.

People- Always ensure that those who you mingle with are people who believe in you and can motivate you when you need some motivation. Anyone who does not believe in you may not be able to motivate/inspire you, especially when you need it most. Relational wealth is very important. This is what has helped me/still helping me. Surround yourself with people who will look you in the face and tell you whenever you’re missing it.

Materials- Books, CDs, Seminars and some other resource materials are things you should not joke with if you truly you want to be a friend of benefit to yourself and others. An African proverb says, “it is what the bird feeds on that helps it to fly”. What you have read, watched or listened to could just be what will help you out during that challenging time.

The God factor- Regardless of your belief, I want you to know that there is an INVISIBLE FACTOR that controls the physical.  My favorite book says- the earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof.
Thanks for your time. Please click the link below to read the previous series here= http://dkingzpen.blogspot.com/2013/07/friends-of-benefit-part-1.html

+Lola Akinmade Åkerström +Livingston Obasi +Olumide Emmanuel +Bamisaye Adeniran +Oluwatomisin Idowu +Deolu Akinyemi 

I Owe You

We call you Awimayehun

None of your words fall to the ground

We call you Alewilese

You do what you say and say what You do.

I stand in awe of You

The one from whose wealth my daily needs are met

Whose mercy has brought me this far

What would have been my story?

I owe all I am to His Glory.

As each day passes by

I see a new dimension of Your generous mercy.

Kini m’ba fi san ore re Baba

From conception till date

Your mercy has never left me stranded.

For the tough and challenging times

My breakthrough was not held captive

Thanks to Your faithfulness.

I Celebrate Your Love

 Love is an adventure

A decision you make from the heart

True love is in continuous tense.

I’ve enjoyed Your continuous Love

Not for one moment have I been stranded

I celebrate this Love

I once read from an article;

Even in relationship, it is permitted to be silly

You’ve got to be creatively innovative.

Your innovative Love has made the difference

I owe you

My comfort, my Lover.

You’ve spoilt me silly with this uncommon love

I’ve become the envy of others

All thanks to Your unique Love

I wanna bask in the atmosphere of your love

This atmosphere takes me to the paradise

And joy like a river overwhelms my helpless heart.

I can’t help but ask for more

Let the wind of Your Love blow away my sorrows and pains

And till eternity I’ll cherish Your unfailing Love.

Friends of Benefit II

Click on this link is to read part one  http://dkingzpen.blogspot.com/2013/07/friends-of-benefit-part-1.html
Welcome to the Part 2 :

A friend loves at all time…

As I string these words together, I recall a recent experience with a close “friend”. One of those things… like we say back then, “you aren’t yet friends if you’ve never disagreed/quarreled”. If you’ve never been offended by a friend then watch out cos it could be closer than you think…laughs! In whatever relationship you’re, there is the need for you to come to terms with reality-offences will come!

It takes love and maturity to forgive/overlook offences and continue in any kind of relationship. Many people have been hurt and a lot will still be hurt­-not a curse but the reality of live. The earlier you accept the fact that, no one is perfect, the better for you and your relationship.

The reason hurt exists is to test the strength of that relationship- forgiveness comes first in the dictionary, so practice advance forgiveness. A mother won’t throw away her suckling child for biting her breast while breast feeding him/her, so never because of an offence put an end that relationship, except you are so convinced it CANNOT work again. Forgiveness is an attribute of champion.

Even the hand stringing these words together is not exempted, we need to make things right (never stop forgiving). As I ponder on the word in the above statement again, it suggests to me that-Love in friendship should be a continuous action just like the verb. Friendship is a commitment that demands the energy all the parties involved. Like the common saying, “it takes two to tango”. But you must realize that not all friendship last forever. Let me close with the words of a friend and colleague, Taiwo;

I use to be scared of loosing friends, now I concede, friends are for different seasons. You lose some, you gain some.

But remember, NEVER end any relationship with hurt, please FORGIVE. I care about your happiness.

thanks for your time. to read part three please click http://dkingzpen.blogspot.com/2013/08/friends-of-benefit-you-part-3.html