Why Personal Development?

Personal/self development is any activity that culminates into your growth, worth and increases your value. Activities that improve awareness and (Self) identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.

It includes formal and informal activities for developing others. 

Without any effort or commitment to improve anything, such thing will remain in its raw form thereby been underestimated and under-valued. Hence, the need for development to bring out the best out of such thing/product/material- you can never get the best out of any raw material until it is developed or worked upon.

What is Development?

 

1. Any activity that aids the quality of a particular thing or person.
2. To become or make larger, more mature, or advanced.
3. Start to exist, experience, or possess. 
4. Convert to a new purpose
5. To increase the worth of something

  

Why Do I Need Personal –Development?

“Where purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable”

                             Dr. Myles Munroe

There is often a reason for any activity that we embark upon as human beings which explains the fact that we are logical in nature.  When God created us, He expects us to keep improving and developing. He expects us to develop and become better in order to fulfill His purpose.

“Where you are today is your fault. Where you’ll be tomorrow is your choice”

                             Adeolu Akinyemi

We need personal development because:

1. It directs our attention to important things.
2. It increases our capacity.
3. It connects us with positive people.
4. It increases our worth and value.
5. It enhances leadership.
6. It increases our level of competence.
7. Without personal Development fulfilling purpose is a delusion.
8. It is a sign of maturity and responsibility.

 

It is important that we invest in ourselves constantly to upgrade by continuously learning new things, acquiring new/more skills. It requires your commitment, care and attention.

 

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Are Our VALUES Asleep?

It pains my heart whenever it occurs to me that we have a bunch of leaders who cannot set examples for the younger generation to imbibe. We have nothing but leaders that are selfish, self-centered, and corrupt and a questionable value system. Their decisions, actions-what we see and read about them all point to the fact that they have a sick and questionable value system.

Corruption   has eaten deep into the marrow of our leaders- our leaders have made the name of our country a laughing stuck on the global scene. Social evils and vices have consumed the giant of Africa. The center has become so united and fused together in devilish acts and practices. We have a group of people who call themselves leaders, people who have no idea about service, respect for humanity- to them; integrity is nothing but just one of the words in a dictionary.

During his lectures at Nigerian Student Roundtable (NSR2013), a Conference held in Lagos, Nigeria. Hon. Dino Melaye said, Nigeria does not practice democracy but “Greedeocracy, a government of the greedy, by the greedy, and for the greedy”. These set of greedy individuals are usually characterized by lack of (positive) Values.

We have leaders who have sold their dignity and conscience to corruption. They are nothing but a group of greedy individuals that have been united by corruption and concerned only by what benefits them and their immediate family. Corruption FC and Selfishness United…laughs

The principle that guides the life of an individual is called Values. It is the belief system of an individual that guides the way he relates with life; moral, career, religious, health, financial etc are all controlled by an individual value system. A wrong and negative value system will never produce a life of life of dignity and honor, you’ll reap what you sow- like produces like. Your values will never betray you, you are a reflection of your values.

Recently, I came up with my own meaning –an acronym of values; Vision Attitude Legacy Usefulness Empowerment Structures.

The present situation Nigeria has found herself is a question of values in leadership, our leaders lack values- no vision, attitude is nothing to write about, no legacy is being built, how will such an institution be useful to the people especially when the leaders are not empowered because they have no (good) structure.

I believe so much in the future of Nigeria, and just like Obama told Americans, I say to Nigerians, YES we can! A better Nigeria is a reality; let us readdress our VALUES- young, old, male and female, it begins with you. Enough of tribal and ethic sentiments. We are Nigerians, not Igbo, Hausa nor Yoruba. God bless Nigeria!

 

Why Die When You Can Still Breathe

A lot of people give up too soon than their energy to carry is willing to carry them, many would have made it to the finish line but for their inability to endure just a little more. Before you call it quit, spare some moment and ponder on the decision you’re about to take- on the resources (time and others) you’ve committed into that particular task.

It is often amazing when you watch a football match and a particular team (A) scores early in the first half and up till the 90^th minute the opposite team (B), keeps searching and fighting for an equalizer -and hopefully get the winning goal. As the match draws close to the end, you’ll see the losing team (B) trying everything to equalize so, they keep pressurizing the opposing team’s defense as much as possible. Suddenly, a goal comes out of the blues, and it’s the equalizer…and just before the referee blows the final whistle (after the extra time), the team (B) that was once down gets the winning goal. You feel the excitement and joy in the team who came from behind to win the game, especially if the team happens to be your favorite.

Life is just like a football match, it is not over until the final whistle is blown by the referee. The referee has not signaled the end of the match yet, why take the referee’s role- why write off yourself when your maker has not written you off. Your background is not a good enough excuse to keep your back glued to the ground; a lot of people have “better excuses” but refused to give explanation to their inability to become what their creator had initially designed them to be.

Both teams keep fighting until the match ends, regardless of who scores first, the match is often won by the team who scores more goals. The interesting and intriguing thing is when you see a team come from behind to claim the victory. This suggests to me that, it is not all about how bad you start, your finishing matters most- this does not imply that you can start any how because, having a good start also has its advantages but going all the way and finishing better than you started is the best.

Determination, self-belief, focus among others are very vital in making the best out of life.

Often time, a lot of people call it quit while they still have the energy to get to the finish line and breast the tape, to claim the top prize. It is only the lifeless that is not permitted to hope for victory, once you still have the breath of life traveling through your nostrils and lungs-then it’s not time to quit.

One thing the breath signifies is that, “the chief coach” still believes in you, hence, he has kept you on the pitch to deliver the goals-you can’t afford to let Him down. He created you and knows your capability but you have failed to see yourself in His light.

Don’t be too much in haste to call it quit, don’t conclude too soon, why give up when you can still fight. Challenges are the food of champions, prey on those challenges my dear friend, you can have your name plated in gold- you’ve got what it takes!!

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Happy Children's Day

They are the seeds of the future

The fruits of our labor

The summary of our lives

Even the Master, calls them His Heritage.

 

Children, the adults of tomorrow

Answers to the cry of the barren

The joy of parents

The tenant of the womb.

 

It’s your day and we celebrate you

It’s your moment, we felicitate with you

To all children, the pen spills…

Happy children’s day.

 

 

 

MOACares Hope Alive

 

 

 

Moa Cares Foundation Presents 'HOPE ALIVE' in commemoration of the Children's day celebration .......
A day set aside to celebrate children with autism and other special kids. There would be a short documentary on AUTISM; the special characteristics of kids living with this condition and how love can keep their hopes alive.
Venue: Helping hands special school, 4th Avenue, A-one close Festac town.
Date: 25th May 2013
Time: 10am.
... some of their needs include
Doors, Fans, Generator, Desktop Computers(not necessarily brand new). Call 08086120301,08034098456,08050823037 BB PIN: 26012EA6B(Strictly for support of this event)... To give hope to dis kids. Ur kind/cash donations would be appreciated. Thanks
"We love and that ROCKS"
PROUDLY Supported by: D'KINGZ Pen

 

 

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Restoration

From my eyes
Flown uncontrollable tears
Both within and without flow tears of pain
Flowing like a river.

Back to the land of ignored pains you’ve taken me
You’ve drawn water  of pains
From my helpless white balls
God, please come to my rescue.

It hurts to remember the unexplainable loss
God please give me an answer, restore my loss
The help of the helpless, come to my aid
the one who sticks closer than a brother, come comfort me.

The healed wound has been reopened
God! Can’t handle this on my own
Please, send me some strength
Mine is exhausted
Please come be my strength.

In the absence of my request
My collapse is inevitable
My inner strength can take me no further
Please come embrace me.

My tears have become my ink 
and my eyes tell the story of my pain
Haven, I need a hug.

The white balls have become red
The strong man, a shadow of himself
His courage can take him no further.

God, give me an answer
Make the weak man strong again
Strengthen the weak heart

Wipe off the helpless tears
Heal the reopened wound again
Strengthen the weak heart again
Restore the loss again
Fill the heart with joy again.
+Deolu Oniranu +Deolufolu kogbelola
+deola kayoed +Egedegbe Dorcas 

Celebrating Motherhood

When no-one was willing, you took the nine month assignment
When the call was made and all drew back
You stepped forward like a lion
Not minding the consequences of your decision.

You opened the door and granted my entry into the world
Thanks to you mother.
The molder of my tender heart and the one who delivered me from ignorance.

When the four-wheeled would have triumphed over me
Your arms made the difference
Thank you mother...
Now I go all the way back to pick these words to show my appreciation
Though not enough but please accept this and more to come;
 Iya ni wura iyebiye
Ti a kole f'owo ra
O loyun mi f'osu mesan
O pon mi f'odun meta

Iya ni wura iyebiye ti a kole fowo ra...
Happy MOTHERS' Day

D'Kingz Pen Drips for you...

+Abisola Ojo +olasunmbo olaleye +Bimorn amornrat +Olabisi Oshinaike +Olaoluwa Daramola

Potter's Master-Piece

Beauty has no end
You're another Expression of beauty
A custom-made, creation of the Almighty
You must have taken the porter's weekend
Beauty can only get better.

Exception is your beauty
Damsels bow to your entrance
Paying their homage without hesitation.

My eyes can't help but, bow to the pressure of her presence
My two white balls surrender to her beauty
A special craft of the Almighty
Specially made to showcase the porter's creativity.

Surely, the porter never made you for this planet
You must have sneaked out of the garden of Angels
Thanks to the "gatekeepers" who granted your entry
I owe this damsel more blood
As this marks the beginning of the payment of my debt.

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Just a Moment of Madness

The management of stardom is by far a different game compared to attaining it (stardom). Some people would say, it requires more to manage success that it takes to attain it- keeping the success you have achieved is more important and demanding than attaining the success itself. The management of success is totally a different ball game. Many stars have today been forgotten just because of one moment of madness they displayed when it mattered most. Becoming a “star” does not stop with being a start, it takes more than that, the higher you go, the more the challenges and the more you need to put certain things (character, discipline, focus etc.) in place in order to protect and guard your success jealously.

The recently concluded African U-17 football championship showed a lot of promises and raised a lot of hope especially the display put up by the Nigerian team, the Golden Eaglet. Going by the way they dusted their opponents, and scoring goals with ease. A lot of people were confident the cup was coming to Nigeria; however, a giant had to be conquered for this “dream” to become a reality, the young Elephant of Cote d'Ivoire, were the only team to have defeated the Eaglet on their way to the final. A lot of Nigerians believed the young Elephant won the group match by a stroke of luck, thanks to a late goal- “winning na (is) winning o”.

The Eaglet had the match under control not until the last minute of the match when a costly mistake cost them the match. However, that did not stop them from reaching the final, after apologizing to Nigerians and showing us they had learnt from the unexpected defeat.

I watched with dismay and disbelief as the least expected happened. First, it was the referee who decided to kill what should have been a beautiful match. He showed that he never had what it takes to officiate on the big stage, as some of his calls were questionable –this is not needed at such a very important time and stage of an event that has drawn the eyes of the whole continent and the world.

On the other hand, the Eaglet did not help matters as they failed to convert begging chances. They wasted lots of goal scoring chances that would have sealed the victory for them. As lots of people had predicted, they had things going in their favor until they lost their cool. At first, it was a red card, a silly foul committed by a player; he threw his elbow at an opponent behind him (and trust, the opponent made a show out of it), which attracted the referee’s “generosity” and his sending off was inevitable. There was about 15 minutes to the end of the match, and the team (Eaglet) had to complete the match with 10 players, against a physical side as the young Elephant!

After 90 minutes, it was straight to penalties- what some people call anybody’s game. But to certain extent each team at this stage have their destinies in their hands once they maintain team and individual discipline praying that the “god of soccer” smiles on them. As the match went into penalties, I remembered the AFCON (2000) final played in Lagos, Nigeria, between the Indomitable Lions of Cameron and the Super Eagles of Nigeria. I silently prayed same thing will not repeat itself. Not long after my prayer, a Nigerian player (whose name I can’t remember at this moment) stepped forward to take the penalty and before I could blink my eyes, he had taken the kick.

What a miss!! I was so displeased and bitter not particularly about the miss but, at the way he took the kick. How could you dash the hope of over 150million people? What sort of confident is that? Na new style be this? Questions unending kept strolling through my mind. Questions would never stop coming but the fact is, this is just a typical example and picture of how a lot of people have allowed a moment of madness ruin what they have spent time and resources building. A moment of insanity can cost you your whole achievement.

Attitude requires consistency, especially a positive attitude. This is the lesson I learnt from the story of this guy’s moment of madness. Just like the title of J.C Maxwell’s book, “the difference maker”, the attitude would have made the difference at that stage and moment. But he lost it, no thanks to his inability to remain cool and professional when it mattered most and just the attitude of a player cost the whole team a moment of glory and victory.

 

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D'Kingz journal

Respect or Hypocrisy

Whenever and wherever I see people work or serve I am often more interested in what motivates them. I was in a particular gathering recently when this taught kept craving for my attention and I had no choice but “give in” to the pressure. I think we often mistake hypocrisy for loyalty and respect. A lot of subordinates, who claim to respect and be loyal to their boss, are nothing but hypocrites.

someone's past is your present...avoid the mistakes they made...it is better to learn from another person's mistake than been a "case-study"

D'KINGZ Pen

 

DEVELOPING THE RIGHT PASSION

The world is filled with people consumed by passion. I can say without any doubt that every man you see walking has a burning passion for something. Adults and young adults, guys and ladies, young and old all have a passion for something. We all have something that spur us as individuals and make us go all the way- even when others seem to be despising us…that is what passion does, it makes you go all the way.

In the words of a screenwriter and Director, Joss Whedon;

“Passion, it lies in all of us, sleeping…waiting…and though unwanted…it will stir…open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us…guides us…passion rules us all, and we need to obey.  What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love… the clarity of hatred… and the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could leave without maybe we’d  know some kind of peace…but we would be hollow…Empty rooms shuttered and dank. Without we’d be truly dead.”

  What is passion?

v  Something that is desired intensely

v  Intense enthusiasm: a strong liking or enthusiasm for a subject or activity e.g. a passion for music

v  Object of enthusiasm: the object of somebody's intense interest or enthusiasm

What you are passionate about, you can give your life for.

I must say at this point that there are two kinds of passion-negative and positive passion. It is not just good enough to be passionate about something or to have passion. Having the right kind of passion is as important as the breath in your nostril. Only those with the right passion have their names in the good book of live.

We live in a country where the passion of some people is in embezzling public funds, corruption and engaging in other anti- human activities. That is not the positive or right kind of passion we are talking about. All these (aforementioned) are the negative and wrong kind of passion to have or develop as it leaves you with no lasting legacy, where all you would be remembered for is the number of people you deprived of their rights and those you made to suffer and experience the negative and unhappy side of life.

Having the right passion at the wrong time is also unhealthy. For instance, having money is good but being so carried away by the desire to make money at all cost is wrong and unhealthy especially when you do it at the expense of other people’s joy and well-being. Sex is good and was created by God to be enjoyed but being carried away and consumed by the desire to have sex as a single (not married) is wrong and can often lead to regrets and grief.

      Why Should I Develop The Right Passion?

ü  The book of wisdom says, "it is better to have a good name than to have riches…” there is nothing that is worth replacing a good and lasting legacy. The likes of Isaac Newton, Bill Gates (Microsoft), Micheal Dell (the chairman of the board of Directors of Dell Inc.,) , Aliko Dangote, Pastor E.A Adeboye etc. are men of substance who channeled their passion towards the right path of life and they will continually “live on” because of the impact they have made on mankind. A life well lived is not that with the best of cars, fat accounts, expensive mansions etc. but a life that is filled with impact and good works.

ü  Another reason you should develop the right passion is because it will speak for or against your children or generation that will come after you.

ü  It creates an unexplainable Peace of Mind. There is a kind of inner satisfaction and peace of mind you’ll have when you know you are doing the right thing. A lot of people will not dare to move around freely because of their unhealthy deeds.

ü  The Law of Sowing and Reaping: some will say, “What goes around will always come around.”  If you do good definitely you will reap the benefits and if you do bad…? You know the answer.

In closing, let me leave you with this thought,

Why have passion for what can harm you?

Why run after what will stain your robe?

Why engage in what will speak against you?

Why channel my energy towards the wrong course?

Develop the Right passion…thanks!


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He's Risen

He’s Risen
If they’d known, they wouldn’t have crucified Him
He’s risen
He humbled Himself and submitted Himself to death
He’s Risen
Taking upon himself, the burden of all mankind
He’s Risen
That we may have Hope and Salvation for all be guaranteed…
Our Lord, He’s Risen.
On the third Day, He fulfilled His Promise
The grave couldn’t hold Him back
My King Lives again
His pain has become my gain
I lay claim to the gain
My Lord He’s Risen,Halleluyah!!

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All for my gain

Even in pain
You focused on my gain
And ignored the rain
You ignored the raining pain.

It rained on you like never again
All for my gain
You board the train
All for my gain

In a train loaded with pain
All for my gain
And took my place of pain
All for my gain.

I will forever praise you again
For you endured the pain for my gain
Now I am in a train loaded with all kinds of gain
And they are all for my gain.

In the midst of my gain
I will always remember again and again
That your pain
Is all for my gain.

Bamisaye Adeniran :

Make That Dream Live

A TRUE MOTHER

Carried away by the desire to give me a life
You abandoned yours
And left your father's house for another man's
All for the picture of me and my siblings to come alive.

You embraced a strange community 'cos of your FRUITS Always on stand to cover my flaws
Preventing me from the harms that would have terminated my sojourn.
Oh, what a Sweet mother!

When my legs were tender and kneels not strong enough to pace through my daily journey
Your back made the difference for me
Like a landlord, I claimed the rent.

A place of comfort in the midst of thorns
A refuge and a safe place in danger
My favorite place to answer nature's call.

From your breast my hunger was silenced
Your breasts daily assassinated my hunger
Oh, can't stop relishing those days
Can't stop wanting more of the purest milk I've ever tasted.

Thanks to the Almighty
The One who fore-knew my desires
And to them he granted the BEST provision
I'll Cherish you till eternity.

You're the best one could ever wish for
Thanks, my gateway to earth
The one who granted my work-permit
I'll ALWAYS LOVE you Mum..

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+Adeolu Akinyemi
 

Her Royal Majesty

Eyi ni iwe ifiranse si enyan Pataki
Areewa omoluabi ti kose fi we…what a Damsel
Her royal Majesty …yet seek abode in the midst of the humble
An heaven sent friend, an angel in disguise
Eniyan bi angeli…ododo laarin egun (thorns)
Always wanting more of your companion
Yet to set my white balls on you
Can't wait to make it real…just for a second.

Can't wait, can't wait… a moment I'll cherish for long
May this request see the light of day…

And as you answer to nature's call tonight
I'm gonna miss you…you've always made my day areewa, olori ariike
Wishing you a blissful  night rest and see you in ma dreams…


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A Tribute To Governor Yakowa

Another hero departs without a goodbye

A tragedy too hard on our hearts 

Too sudden to believe What a loss,

An Icon of transformation is gone.

Your territory birthed "Reflections"

I owe your memory the blood of the pen.

We couldn't take away the bucket 

No thanks to our insensitivity.

What a confirmation to our mortality. 

May your seeds be protected by the Almighty

Divinity, come heal the wounds of the family

Rain fortitude from Your abode

Console the bereaved

Rest in peace Governor Yakowa…
+Cristiano Ronaldo 
+faith dan adegboye 
+David Beckham 
+Olusola Samuel 
+olumideoo@yahoo.com 
+Adekunle Odunnoiki  
+adeniran qadeshola 
+Angela Adekunle 
+Adekunle Alashi 

I've Got Joy

Deeper than the deepest of Oceans
Higher than the heavens from the Earth
Wider than the widest of Oceans
Yet not out of reach, available to all.

Available to pick me up when I fall
To wipe my tears away
And shower my heart with Peace and joy
Overwhelming my inner-man with calmness.

Like a river joy in my heart flows
Not bowing to the season of the barren.
You've become my closest companion
All for the for the sacrifice made on the Cross.

Now I can afford to sing;
"I've got Joy like a river in my soul"
"I've got Joy that no man can give".
Inexhaustible Joy flows within me all 'cos of YOU.

+Deoye Falade +Oluwatosin PRAISE-FOWOWE +Tokunbo Dada +Olusola Samuel +Biyi Bandele +Abisola Ojo +Adekunle Alashi +Olumide Emmanuel +Deolu Oniranu +Oluwatomisin Idowu