Appreciating Time

Hmm… we have become so familiar with our wrist watch such that all it means to us is just a fashion item (accessory) - what about its primary assignment?

I was at a meeting where I asked a member of the audience what his definition of time is. His response further establishes that there are some words that we are so close to and yet, we find them challenging to explain or define.

With a smile on his face, he said, “time is time.” One of my teachers back in those days would say, we should try as much as possible to do away with the word we are defining from the explanation or definition we are giving. According to this teacher, your ability to do this helps you to truly know if you understand the word you’ve been asked to define or explain.

A lot of us have become so “familiar” with time that we think and relate to time as just time. We see time as a "normal thing"- it is just one of those things. It is true that we have 24hours each day but the truth of the matter is, we can never experience the same thing we did yesterday today. Yesterday is gone, today is is another day and tomorrow is yet to come but, what we did yesterday and what we do today tells what today looks like and what tomorrow will look like respectively.

That a man wears a wrist watch is not an indication that he values time or knows what time it is.

This piece is meant to challenge you to see time as a scarce resource and to provoke you to make the best use of every moment and make it count for good. The time you have today will never be there again. Today is an opportunity to determine what your  tomorrow's experience will look like.

It is my believe that this article will not only motivate every reader but will also provoke and propel you to getting the best out of every moment and stage of your life. God Bless you. 

Thanks for reading. and please drop some comment, your view is important            

         

Friends of Benefit (You)-part 3

This category or part three of a series titled “friends of benefit” focuses on the role an individual has to play i.e. you are supposed to be a friend to yourself. How will you love your friend when you don’t even Love yourself? Whatever you do to others is a reflection of what and who you are to yourself.

At times I feel like throwing in the towel due to challenges, discouragement, unyielding efforts etc. but in as much as I feel like, I refuse to. Instead I give myself some pep talks and see myself spurring on and daring to achieve more. If I fail to motivate myself, it means I don’t love myself and nothing will motivate me.

The truth is, there are no supermen but men with super attitude. Every successful person you see or read about today did not become successful/notable because they did not face any challenge but because they had a healthy attitude towards those trying and challenging periods knowing that - Life is filled with ups and downs.

It begins with you!

Personal motivation is very important for anyone who wants to go far because, motivation from external sources may go on strike at times and you’ll be left On Your Own (OYO). 

The place of personal motivation is very crucial. You have to be self- motivated before you can be motivated i.e. you can’t be motivated by any other person if you are not self-motivated. Whenever, I am down and feel like quitting, I psyche myself up.

“it is what the bird feeds on that helps it to fly”.

What you “feed” on matters a lot. The importance of what you surround yourself with can never be over accentuated- they determine your attitude and reaction towards challenges. What you surround yourself with tells if you are a friend of benefit to yourself or not.

People- Always ensure that those who you mingle with are people who believe in you and can motivate you when you need some motivation. Anyone who does not believe in you may not be able to motivate/inspire you, especially when you need it most. Relational wealth is very important. This is what has helped me/still helping me. Surround yourself with people who will look you in the face and tell you whenever you’re missing it.

Materials- Books, CDs, Seminars and some other resource materials are things you should not joke with if you truly you want to be a friend of benefit to yourself and others. An African proverb says, “it is what the bird feeds on that helps it to fly”. What you have read, watched or listened to could just be what will help you out during that challenging time.

The God factor- Regardless of your belief, I want you to know that there is an INVISIBLE FACTOR that controls the physical.  My favorite book says- the earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof.
Thanks for your time. Please click the link below to read the previous series here= http://dkingzpen.blogspot.com/2013/07/friends-of-benefit-part-1.html

+Lola Akinmade Åkerström +Livingston Obasi +Olumide Emmanuel +Bamisaye Adeniran +Oluwatomisin Idowu +Deolu Akinyemi 

Are Our VALUES Asleep?

It pains my heart whenever it occurs to me that we have a bunch of leaders who cannot set examples for the younger generation to imbibe. We have nothing but leaders that are selfish, self-centered, and corrupt and a questionable value system. Their decisions, actions-what we see and read about them all point to the fact that they have a sick and questionable value system.

Corruption   has eaten deep into the marrow of our leaders- our leaders have made the name of our country a laughing stuck on the global scene. Social evils and vices have consumed the giant of Africa. The center has become so united and fused together in devilish acts and practices. We have a group of people who call themselves leaders, people who have no idea about service, respect for humanity- to them; integrity is nothing but just one of the words in a dictionary.

During his lectures at Nigerian Student Roundtable (NSR2013), a Conference held in Lagos, Nigeria. Hon. Dino Melaye said, Nigeria does not practice democracy but “Greedeocracy, a government of the greedy, by the greedy, and for the greedy”. These set of greedy individuals are usually characterized by lack of (positive) Values.

We have leaders who have sold their dignity and conscience to corruption. They are nothing but a group of greedy individuals that have been united by corruption and concerned only by what benefits them and their immediate family. Corruption FC and Selfishness United…laughs

The principle that guides the life of an individual is called Values. It is the belief system of an individual that guides the way he relates with life; moral, career, religious, health, financial etc are all controlled by an individual value system. A wrong and negative value system will never produce a life of life of dignity and honor, you’ll reap what you sow- like produces like. Your values will never betray you, you are a reflection of your values.

Recently, I came up with my own meaning –an acronym of values; Vision Attitude Legacy Usefulness Empowerment Structures.

The present situation Nigeria has found herself is a question of values in leadership, our leaders lack values- no vision, attitude is nothing to write about, no legacy is being built, how will such an institution be useful to the people especially when the leaders are not empowered because they have no (good) structure.

I believe so much in the future of Nigeria, and just like Obama told Americans, I say to Nigerians, YES we can! A better Nigeria is a reality; let us readdress our VALUES- young, old, male and female, it begins with you. Enough of tribal and ethic sentiments. We are Nigerians, not Igbo, Hausa nor Yoruba. God bless Nigeria!

 

D'Kingz journal

Respect or Hypocrisy

Whenever and wherever I see people work or serve I am often more interested in what motivates them. I was in a particular gathering recently when this taught kept craving for my attention and I had no choice but “give in” to the pressure. I think we often mistake hypocrisy for loyalty and respect. A lot of subordinates, who claim to respect and be loyal to their boss, are nothing but hypocrites.

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