How To Get The Best From The Internet

In the words of one of my favorite teachers, Olumide Emmanuel, “the world is a global village and the internet is the village square.” That is where the “village meetings” hold. Just like we go to the market to buy stuffs, so is the internet to the world today. The difference however, is that with the internet, you don’t necessarily need to leave where you are to buy whatever it is you want to buy, for instance, someone could be in Nigeria and make transactions with people in Japan, US or wherever.  The internet has made things easy, to a large extent, such that someone gets a lot of things done without leaving a spot.

Although, the internet has a lot of advantages and benefits to offer, however, the user is the one who decides what he or she wants to get from the internet, is it positive or negative use you want to exploit the internet for? I have heard people say things such as “the internet is bad, the internet is this…and that”. Whenever I hear such statements, I am quick to ask, are you sure-does the internet uses itself? I do not believe that the internet is bad. For crying out loud, it is somebody’s brainchild! And much more a lot of people have used it to make meaningful and positive impacts across the globe so, why is yours different?

One of the benefits the internet offers is that it provides relatively cheap and easy access to personal-development materials. Regardless of the field or profession you are, there are loads of information you could access online, to beef up your intellectual bank.  In an interview conducted by gemWoman, Iquo Ukoh, a renowned female marketing expert, says, “the internet provides ample opportunities to learn new things and continually improve one’s knowledge base and skills without necessarily getting into the class rooms”. She adds that, “today, I am also passing my knowledge across to younger marketers by writing articles regularly on my LinkedIn profile”.

Ironically, it is sad to know that a lot of young people go online to waste their time, in the process they waste away their life unknowingly. Sorry, I’m beginning to take it personal (smiles) but that’s the truth. It is just like someone who goes to the market, wanders around the market without any tangible reason. A market is a place for business thus, it is meant for serious and business minded people.

I have benefited a lot from using the internet, as a writer, it has helped me to expand my reach, develop myself, meet people from different parts of the world, showcase my creative abilities to the world, reach people I may never see, make money legitimately, to mention a few.  What you do on the internet determines what you’d get from it. Like the bible says, “ask and you will receive, seek and you shall find…”the question then is, what are you seeking on the internet?

Are you a business person, do you want to buy or sell your goods? You can publicize your business on the internet. Whatever you get from the internet is what you have made up your mind to get. I have been able to reach out to thousands of people via the internet, I have got a couple of invitations which were financially rewarding all because of the kind of use I have put the internet to.  As a writer, I have had invitations to feature on people’s websites both from within and outside Nigeria. I run my blog (www.bamisaye.wordpress.com) where I post on Wednesdays and God has really helped me to touch lives, families etc. through this medium. You can do more than I am doing, if you really want to. The beauty of the internet is that it is cheap compared to other means. 

I challenge you, my dear reader, put the internet to better use. You can gain from the internet if only you are determined enough. You can make use of the internet to make your voice heard. The bible says, “to him who knows how to do good and does it not, it is a sin”. Be among those who are making positive impacts via the internet. See you at the top.

Adeniran Bamisaye

@Dkingzpen

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Moa Cares Foundation Presents 'HOPE ALIVE' in commemoration of the Children's day celebration .......
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Date: 25th May 2013
Time: 10am.
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Make That Dream Live

A Tribute To Governor Yakowa

Another hero departs without a goodbye

A tragedy too hard on our hearts 

Too sudden to believe What a loss,

An Icon of transformation is gone.

Your territory birthed "Reflections"

I owe your memory the blood of the pen.

We couldn't take away the bucket 

No thanks to our insensitivity.

What a confirmation to our mortality. 

May your seeds be protected by the Almighty

Divinity, come heal the wounds of the family

Rain fortitude from Your abode

Console the bereaved

Rest in peace Governor Yakowa…
+Cristiano Ronaldo 
+faith dan adegboye 
+David Beckham 
+Olusola Samuel 
+olumideoo@yahoo.com 
+Adekunle Odunnoiki  
+adeniran qadeshola 
+Angela Adekunle 
+Adekunle Alashi 

What is the Definition of Your Tears?

I know the title of this write up sounds strange and even extremely weird to some people, but don’t blame me. It is a thought that metamorphosis into a question which eventually gave birth to this strangely titled write up. I’ve had situations where shedding tears was the” only way out”, the only way I could express my feeling at such time. I believe that at one time or the other you have had one reason or the other to shed tears or weep as a result of one situation that you are faced with at that particular time. Whatever word you choose (shed tears, cry or weep), it all boils down to the fact that live is not all about laughing or smiling (having fun). You have times when you have shed tears probably because you were overwhelmed by emotion unknowingly or knowingly (which could be pleasant or unpleasant to you).
One of such occasions, where and when you see people shed tears is a burial ceremony or when someone dies. In such situation you often see people both old and young regardless of the gender (male or female) shedding tears uncontrollably. It is however important to state at this point that there are certain advantages associated with the shedding of tears. I would love to share a few of the ’advantages’ associated with the shedding of tears as I proceed.
Emotional Relief: Tears have a way of bringing emotional relieve to the person in question, it helps to express feelings you can’t explain in words hence, the best and suitable way of expressing ones emotion or feeling at such moment is by shedding tears. So when you see people shedding tears know that they haven’t been able to find the suitable grammatical construction (words) at such time to express their or feelings. And burial is just a good example to buttress this view.
However, it is not only at funeral or burial ceremony that you see people shed tears. Someone could also shed tears when he or she experiences disappointment, maybe the person just received a sack letter and he or she is shocked as a result of the sack. When what appears to be the source of livelihood suddenly disappears into the thin air. At the reading of such letter the person’s reaction could be tears rolling down the chicks. Then different thoughts and questions begin to travel through the person’s mind, questions like; “what have I done to deserve this, where do I start from, why me? “And so on.
Moreover, tears are not just meant for sad or unhappy and unpleasant moments. Someone could be shedding tears because he or she is overwhelmed with joy and this is what is often called “the tears of joy”. Take for example someone who was sacked for no just reason and for about 20 years was struggling to keep his family together then suddenly after about 20 years, on a Monday morning while thinking on how to go about the struggle for the week, while still sitting in his expired bed in a one room apartment suddenly, his half-dead phone rings and he reluctantly picked and answered the called and the following words came out of his helpless phone,”…you have been recalled and you are you are to resume immediately and will be receiving all your salaries for the past 20 years apart from your compensation , for been unduly sacked this runs to about 10million dollars…” then after that while still trying to accept it as the truth, a mail deliverer knocks and he opens the door for him, a mail was delivered to him and he opens in haste eager to know what was inside. He opens and inside the mail was; a Cheque, a letter of reappointment and a car key. He falls to his knees and all he could do was, cry like a baby. No word could find expression through his lips and all he could do was cry, hmm, what a tears of joy.
This man’s case is just to influence your thinking about what I am about to share with you as I continue with this article, “what is the definition of your tears”. I said earlier that, a burial is where you often see people cry and shed tears because of the demise of a loved one (as the case seem). However, let me shock you by saying this, “everyone shedding tears are not doing so because they are grieved” what I’m trying to draw your attention to is the fact that you see someone crying because someone dies does not equal mourning.
In a particular city on a Friday morning, the death of a very popular man was announced and everyone was caught unawares by this unfriendly news that has taken over the air. Later in the day, the compound of the deceased was filled with people who had come to pay condolence visits. With tears rolling down their chicks, they try to console one another but they couldn’t just have their way as nature refused to be cheated. The wife could not believe her beloved is no more and the children can’t believe they will remain fatherless for the rest of their lives, what a loss. In the midst of this emotionally overwhelming atmosphere appears a man from nowhere who wasted no time joining in contributing to the grief atmosphere. But something strange happened and that is where this article was birth.
Although, this latest mourner was grieved but it was a surprise and unbelievable to know the reason for his shedding of tears- what an irony of situation. He wept bitterly and to console him became another task(for those he met at the home of the deceased), when they all thought they had succeeded in calming him down suddenly he slammed himself on the ground and was beyond the power of those who tried consoling him. So after crying till his eyes could not supply him the needed water (tears) for the herculean task, he sat at a corner silent and all to himself. Suddenly he screamed at the top of his voice and the words that came from his “mourning mouth” were,”this man has killed me oh… MY MONEY IS GONE!”.Suddenly every tear disappeared (from people’s eyes) and lips were left widely apart. No one could believe what they’ve just heard. From that moment my thinking was redirected, that the reason people cry at a burial or because of another person’s death may not be because of the obvious reason but could be as a result of personal reason which at times is unbelievable.
It was latter that the witnesses got to realize that the deceased before his death had borrowed a sum of money close to 7million Naira from this man who just came into the deceased’s compound to execute a business which unfortunately for him (the deceased) failed and that contributed to his untimely debt because further investigation revealed that he had an accumulated debt close to about 50million. The irony of it is that most of those who came around came because they wanted to confirm the rumor of the deceased death because he (the deceased) owed them also. Sod at the end it became obvious that they were crying because of the money the deceased owed them before his death and even the wife was weeping because the man left nothing behind but debt. At the end of the day the definition of the mourners tears became obvious that they were mourning their uncertainty, the feasibility of recovering their money was very bleak and at that point, this question popped up; “what is the definition of your tears?

A Dark Sunday

The daily produces unpleasant products
The ear is becoming more displeased
The heart is hurt as each minute and second tick
We grief, we mourn-‘cos our heart is hurt.

The loss of precious yet again
Lives that would have made the difference
This is one but too many, divinity come console us again.
A dark and very black weekend
A stained Sunday Our nation has been badly hit
Heaven please help, it’s so devastating to the ears
and the pillars of our heart have been taken apart.

We can’t handle this, divinity come to our rescue
Could this be the consequence of our inhuman acts?
Have our iniquity come to pay us a visit?
Heaven please, we need a hug- a warm embrace we ask for
We plead for divine consolation
Let mercy come dwell amongst us-take your green card and have it.
May their souls rest in peace
And their loved ones be consoled from above
We pray, not for this Lord please!

Forgiveness; What You Must Learn

Live is made up of different stages and phases where we meet people with different natures and characters. And as we move on meeting people there is one unavoidable truth, you will be offended but that is not the focus for now. The questions I want to ask you are; are you waiting to be offended or you waiting to forgive? These are vital questions we should ask ourselves as we wake from our bed each day and embark on our daily activities.
It is obvious that, we have our likes and dislikes as individual human beings. It is therefore almost impossibility for you not to be offended on a daily basis especially when you are the outgoing type or someone whose job description involves dealing with people. In as much as we are faced with different individual challenges and selfish intensions. Even while at home it happens when the husband wants to watch a football match and the wife wants to watch a movie or her favorite weekly program while at the same time the children want to watch their favorite, Tom and Jerry. In such cases we play our politics well and at the end of the day they are able to reach a compromise and no one is hurt. And that is the same attitude and mind set we ought to apply in dealing with people.
As a member of a team you have people with different ideology so the possibility of been offended is very high. But you won’t say because you were offended by a team member you’ll stop being a member of that team, you’ll be doing more harm than progress to your promising career.
So in as much as it impossible for you not to be offended then I suggest to you that the best thing for to do is, “always be ready to forgive” don’t wait for you to be offended instead be ready to forgive in other words, always be on the alert, waiting to forgive someone that will offend you.
Your ability to forgive your offenders has a lot of advantages and I will share a few of them with you briefly and I hope you’ll put them in mind. One of the benefits of forgiving others is that it is a sign of maturity; your ability to forgive your offender shows that you are a matured person and people will often respect you for that. Another benefit of being able to forgive is that gives you peace of mind, your mind is often at peace when you have no hurt against anyone in your heart and you are able to do whatever it is that you want to do with a free mind and at a better level of concentration. Your ability to forgive also helps your growth and your facial expression.
Another important benefit (which can be derived from forgiveness) I’ll like to share with you is FOCUS; forgiveness has a way of helping your ability to focus. For instance when you have hurt or unforgiveness in your heart, it makes it difficult for you to concentrate (Complete attention; intense mental effort) your mind on a task that is ahead of you. Anytime and every time you remember that someone has hurt you it tells on your concentration thereby affecting your pace on that particular task or assignment you have in hand. So it is my believe and advice that you let go of that hurt you are holding against your offender he’s just a brother or sister from another mother so let go so that you can focus better. It could even be the reason why you have not being productive enough in your place of work, everyone knows what you are capable of doing but all of a sudden your productivity level has nosedived. Friend, just give it a try and see how your productivity level reacts with the help of your focus on that job.
At this point let me share a personal experience with you. This happened to me to the end of my last year in university. It was a very crucial stage of my life, I was in my final year in the university and it was as if I was the target of people who needed someone to hurt or offend, first it was the issue of my final project, that was not moving at the pace I wanted it to due to my supervisor’s busy schedule and this really affected me to the extent that I fell ill at a particular time and as if that wasn’t enough there came the class project brouhaha.
I felt it was a good idea that we part with fun memories of one another in heart and look back with fun in five, ten and twenty years the good ending memory we had together would still be fresh in our memories then and would be pleasant to remember. We (committee) came up with the idea of having a final year package that will include; t-shirt, year book and CD then cap it up with a diner/award night. So people who we interested contributed and afterwards the committee in charge went ahead with the awarding of contracts to the various clients. Unfortunately along the line there was a bridge of contract by one of the parties we awarded the contract to. The production of the t-shirt was below standard and far from what we agreed and the consequence was insults that were inevitable because a lot were already waiting for us to make mistakes, this really hurt my feeling and I began to regret bringing up the idea and even being a front-runner. And for weeks this affected me and I was emotionally down and was unable to focus on the important and vital things, my academics and others. To study became a challenge and even to embark on important issue. This is what hurt can do to you, it will reduce your effectiveness.
Hurt not dealt with is capable of affecting your relationship with your loved ones. It is advisable that you should never allow any offence get at you or else it will cause you more harm than good. When I had that unfriendly experience with some of my course mates it affected my relationship with other people even those at home (my family members). It became very difficult to relate with people at home due to the insults that I’ve allowed to get at me as a result of the flop that came up in school as a result of the substandard T-shirt that was produced. During this period I was easily upset by little things and even a friend became a victim of my immaturity during this time but thank God, we settled our disagreement almost immediately and we shook hands thereafter.
Forgiving your offenders also contributes a great deal to your happiness. The more the hurt you carry in your heart the more unhappy you are and the more forgiving you are the more happy you are also. Most of those you see as happy people are not happy because they have not been offended but, because they have been able to forgive their offenders and move on with their lives. Unforgiveness will affect your happiness and always reduce your level of productivity so please deal with it before it deals with you.
Your ability to forgive your offenders shows beyond doubt that you are a matured person and people will get to respect you for having such an attribute. It must be learnt and consciously developed and worked upon, to grow and, just like we go to school to learn we also have to learn how to forgive as we grow. There is no school that teaches forgiveness but you have to learn it and the only way to show that you’ve learnt it is by living it. Forgiving those who offend you is an attribute of matured beings and will bring you respect and joy.